Being an Ordinary Woman in a Celebrity World

Hi Everyone,

It’s been quite some time since I last posted here. Sorry. However, I’ve been preparing and revving up to launch more of this philosophy to the world. I know I’m meant to speak, to be an advocate, to teach, to inspire. I know that my experience with the Big “C” was meaningful to me and I want to share that with others.

As a professional speaker, I’ve often given Keynote addresses in front of large audiences. I love that. It’s not my ego, but rather an opportunity to perhaps say something that gets people excited or even introspective. I LOVE to see the lights go on in their eyes when they have a moment of insight. It’s the best view yet.

In working to get myself out there to speak about the Cancer Adventure, however, I’ve come up against the “celebrity” issue. Conferences want celebrities who have had cancer to speak because they draw more people. I understand that. Economically, it makes sense. However, just because someone is a celebrity, even one with Cancer, it doesn’t mean that people will relate to them. That’s where I come in.

My new angle is:  Cancer 360. In my previous life, I was a psychotherapist and I worked a lot with patients and family with illness. I ran a Hospice and trained volunteers. I’ve been a caretaker / sister of people who have died from cancer and then I had my own. Significantly, when I was diagnosed, I was in my 60’s, single, lived alone, was self-employed and living in the most expensive city in the world. Oh, and I had very limited resources. I didn’t have a chef, someone to go to market for me, I didn’t have a driver or car or a personal trainer. I had wonderful friends who helped. They’d take me home from chemo in cabs and they’d bring over food. But, at night, there was no one next to me to say, “honey, can you get me.” I know what it is like to be an “ordinary person” dealing with an extraordinary experience… and I have much insight.

I say all this because I know there are many other “ordinary” people out there … living life on the edge, on limited resources, who want someone who can relate to them. That’s why I write here; that’s why I’m reaching out to speak.

I hope it’s valuable. And, if you know conferences looking for a good speaker on Cancer, I’m the one :)  Your comments are appreciated.

Happy New Year! May 2013 be your best year ever.

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