This is my first official blog post on this new site. I’m excited.
If truth be known, I want everyone out there who has experienced some major illness or setback to empower themselves to “thrive” … to go beyond what they thought possible at the when the difficult experience happened. While that might sound a bit unrealistic, it’s do-able.
How to start?
First, acknowledge that this thing has happened — a diagnosis, a significant loss of a loved one, a major job loss, a horrible accident, etc.
Second, once you take the steps needed in the initial phase — surgery, treatment, grief, physical therapy, etc, begin to talk to yourself about how you expect to come through this “thing.” I’m not talking positive psychology, I’m talking reassurance, tapping into present-moment awareness, searching for how to respond in a way that is empowering.
Third, although it might sound contradictory to #2, you also have to allow yourself to have the feelings of doubt, concern, worry, sadness and grief as they well up inside you. Feel them, then let them pass and go back to step #2.
Fourth, reach out to all you know who love you and care about you and surround yourself with the support you want and need. Let others in.
Fifth, as the situation begins to calm, resolve, or even if it moves into a chronic state or even if it’s a “not good” diagnosis, then start to LIVE to the fullest extent anyhow. Don’t put off the things you want to do, but rather experience life. Take it a day at a time and immerse yourself in what would feel good each moment. In other words, take on “thriving” as much as your body and mind allow you to. Perhaps do things you’ve never done, go places you’ve never gone.
And, when you feel you are a “thriver,” join our list and share your words of how you are thriving here on this website for others to learn from and appreciate.
I welcome you again and look forward to your comments.